The fact of the matter is life is unfair. There is injustice in the world. We see it in the newspaper every day. Even as small children, we’re aware of this fact. From the first time some kid got an ice cream cone and you didn’t, or you were punished for something you didn’t do, you were dealing with it. But there are ways you can follow to get past the unfairness of life. See them below….
1. Fair is not a useful concept.
If you experience or witness something you see as unfair or unjust and you can do something about it, then you should. Allowing that cannonball to sit in your stomach does you absolutely no good. In fact, it adds unnecessary stress to your life.
2. Viewing yourself as a victim tends to keep you in the past and promotes a sense of powerlessness.
We often refer to those who have experienced injustice or atraumatic event as victims. However, some feel that the label, victim, has negative connotations that stigmatize those who are trying to overcome their traumatic experiences. “No one likes to raise their hand and scream, ‘Me! Me! when asked, ‘Have you ever been a victim?’ However, we are all victims to something in our life.”
3. Negative thoughts and emotions inhibit positive change.
Thoughts: When you’re perceiving most or all of your experiences in a negative way, it is extremely difficult to move forward in a positive direction. However, negativity is hard to escape. Even if nothing negative is happening in your own lives, tragic, depressing stories are rampant in the media. That’s not to suggest that you should bury your head in the sand and ignore current events, or pretend that bad things don’t happen. They clearly do.
1. Fair is not a useful concept.
If you experience or witness something you see as unfair or unjust and you can do something about it, then you should. Allowing that cannonball to sit in your stomach does you absolutely no good. In fact, it adds unnecessary stress to your life.
2. Viewing yourself as a victim tends to keep you in the past and promotes a sense of powerlessness.
We often refer to those who have experienced injustice or atraumatic event as victims. However, some feel that the label, victim, has negative connotations that stigmatize those who are trying to overcome their traumatic experiences. “No one likes to raise their hand and scream, ‘Me! Me! when asked, ‘Have you ever been a victim?’ However, we are all victims to something in our life.”
3. Negative thoughts and emotions inhibit positive change.
Thoughts: When you’re perceiving most or all of your experiences in a negative way, it is extremely difficult to move forward in a positive direction. However, negativity is hard to escape. Even if nothing negative is happening in your own lives, tragic, depressing stories are rampant in the media. That’s not to suggest that you should bury your head in the sand and ignore current events, or pretend that bad things don’t happen. They clearly do.
