Tuesday 25 July 2017

Losing friends isn't a bad thing after all

How many of you are still friends with your high school mates? Very few, right? A huge part of growing comes with accepting some people aren't meant to be in your lives forever.


People grow differently

In your teeenage years a friend was just someone to hang out and play with. You aren't really bothered by what their morals and values are. As an adult, emotional maturity is everything in friendships and keeping emotionally immature people in your circle is a recipe for disaster.


A small circle isn't a bad thing

If you were to be honest with yourself, how many of your 'friends' would you call when you're in need of help? Probably two or three, and those are your real girlfriends. All the other's are people you know and engage with once in a while. You want to have people you cherish in your life and vice versa, not those who're just occupying space.


The connection isn't there anymore

When you met, you hit it off immediately but as you grew older, you've come to realise that the connection you had in the beginning isn't there anymore and that's okay. Making new friends can put a wedge in old friendships. At times you don't 'fit' in or generally don't like the new member of your clique so it's best that you leave.


You've exited your common space

Friendships start from work, social spaces, church or at the gym. Understanding this is very vital in knowing your position in your clique. Chances are, should you leave that space you probably wouldn't remain friends.


You make time for things that matter

Cutting out unnecessary people, means more time for family and yourself. As you grow older, it's important that you spend your time wisely by giving it people who deserve it and you're important to them as they are to you.

©True Love